Praying Over Nagging

If you’re anything like me, there are times when you’re tempted to nag.

But lately, God has been reminding me of a different way—a way that’s rooted in prayer and surrender.

And I keep coming back to these bold reminders from Proverbs: “A quarrelsome wife is like the constant dripping of a leaky roof” (Proverbs 19:13) and “It is better to live in a desert land than with a quarrelsome and fretful woman” (Proverbs 21:19).

Ouch, right?

Those words are convicting because they remind me that when I’m frustrated, the answer isn’t to keep talking or nagging. Instead, I need to walk away and go pray.

Thank you, Jesus, for the Holy Spirit!

We have His power within us and, just as importantly, within our husbands. And that means we can let go of the urge to control and instead trust God to work in both our hearts.

When we step back, lift them up in prayer, and ask for God’s guidance, something incredible usually happens: our hearts start to change too.

When I let go of trying to “fix” or “correct” and instead bring it to God, He does a transforming work in me. He softens my spirit, gives me patience, and reminds me that my husband is His, just as much as I am.

So today, if you’re feeling that familiar urge to “fix” something in your marriage, I encourage you to take a step back.

Walk away, pray, and lean into the power of the Holy Spirit, trusting that God is at work in ways we can’t always see.

Marriage is a journey, and God is faithful to guide us every step of the way. When we put prayer above nagging, we’re inviting Him to shape both our hearts and our marriages for His glory.