Is He Your Husband?
Here are three faith-based steps to seek clarity and find peace in your relationship.
Seek God and Pray for Wisdom
The first step in discerning the future of any relationship is seeking God’s guidance. In Matthew 6:33, we’re told, “Seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.” God wants to be at the center of your relationship and to guide your heart toward His best for you.
Pray sincerely for wisdom. James 1:5-6 says that when we ask for wisdom, we should ask in faith, believing that God will grant it. Spend time in prayer, asking God to reveal His intentions for your relationship. Meditate on His Word and listen for His still, small voice. It may take time, but God is faithful to answer those who seek Him with a humble heart.
Examine the Fruits of Your Relationship
Scripture often guides us to evaluate our lives through the fruits they produce. Galatians 5:22-23 describes the fruits of the Spirit—“love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.” Ask yourself if your relationship is helping you grow closer to these qualities or is it pushing you further away.
Does your relationship bring you closer to God and deepen your faith?
Do you feel a genuine sense of joy, peace, and patience when you’re together?
Relationships aligned with God’s purpose bring you closer to these fruits, not further from them. If there’s more conflict than peace, more hurt than joy, it may be time to consider if this relationship is God’s best for you.
Set Boundaries and Reflect on Growth
Boundaries are an essential part of a healthy relationship, allowing both partners to grow individually and together. Consider whether the other person respects your boundaries. A relationship rooted in love will honor your values and make room for personal growth.
Are both of you becoming better versions of yourselves in this relationship?
Healthy love allows both partners to grow. If you find that growth is stagnant or one-sided, it’s worth prayerfully reflecting on whether this relationship is moving in the right direction.
Seek Him First, Look for Fruits, Protect Your Heart
God created you with purpose and love. As you consider your relationship, remember that you are worth a love that aligns with His will—a love that brings peace and joy. Seek Him first, look for the fruits in your relationship, and protect your heart by setting healthy boundaries. Trust that He will guide you toward the relationship He has designed for you.
