Are You and Your Husband Sharing One Mind?

Do you ever get that feeling that you and your husband are sharing the same mind?

Like, there’s this strange and beautiful sense that you’re somehow wired together.

I have those moments ALL the time, and it makes me think of what the Bible says in Genesis 2:24: “This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.”

We hear that verse so often, but when we really think about it, there’s so much depth there!!

Becoming “one” isn’t just about physical closeness; it’s like every part of us—our bodies, minds, and even our thoughts—are fused together.

And it hit me one day: if our minds are united, then the thoughts I have aren’t just mine. They’re Alex’s, too, in a way.

So, if I’m allowing anxious thoughts, negative self-talk, or anything less than God’s truth to sit in my mind, it’s almost like I’m allowing that into his mind as well.

That realization makes the idea of taking “every thought captive” (2 Corinthians 10:5) feel even more important. It’s not just about me anymore—it’s for both of us. I want to protect my husband by being mindful of the things I allow into our shared “mind.”

So, here’s my challenge to you (and me!) today: let’s be intentional about the thoughts we entertain.

Ask yourself, “Would I want this thought, this mindset, or this feeling to be in my husband’s mind?” This isn’t just about thoughts, either. It’s about how we care for ourselves in every way. What we eat, what we watch, what we say to ourselves—all of it affects our partner as much, if not more, than it affects us.

Marriage is such a beautiful opportunity to elevate the way we treat ourselves. So let’s take this seriously and live in a way that uplifts, honors, and loves our partner just as much as ourselves.